“I’ll sure be happy when Friday comes around!” Seems like I’m always “waiting” for the weekend. Well, its come… and gone… about a few hundred times. Am I Happy?
I’ve also already received thousands of other things that I wanted over the years. So, am I happy NOW?
A Buddhist friend used to warn me that Pain was in the attachment to things. “Look for the trap in all your cravings. There is a hook in the bait.” I think I understand now what the hook is.
One of the hooks, was delaying my ability to feel Peace and Joy- right now.
In Happiness at Work, Dr. Rao pointed out that by following the model of “IF this…then That” we surrender our Happiness to something we can’t control. If this happens, or doesn’t happen I’ll be happy.
Dr. Rao reminded me to not let my happiness be tied to any outcome. “Linking your emotional well-being to the outcome of what you’re striving for is a flawed strategy.”
Don’t be caught. Avoid the hook. Careful of that shiny flashy thing. You take the bait, and your PEACE or Happiness is tied to it.
Besides, after you take that bait, there will be another, and another, and another…
When will YOU be happy?