Cucumber Tao

Shhhh,  don’t tell my wife I said it,  but a cucumber plant is smarter than me!

Gardening this summer,  I placed two tree trimmings into the cucumber cages, for vine support.  I took the climbing tendril and gently tried to wrap it around the branch- to get it started.   To show it the way.

tendrils forced 2

A forced tendril stays stunted and doesn’t support.

The other small branch I just left next to the climbing vine, thinking I’d get back to it when the growing vine was tall enough or older.   Weeks later, the vine tendril that I had tried to gently wrap around the stick was exactly how I left it and sadly not providing any support at all to the plant.

But, to my amazement,  the one that I had just let be, WOW- look at it,  it had grabbed the stick and wrapped itself around tightly, in about 4 or 5 different spots.  Much stronger thru its own experience.

ALLOWED Tendrils 2

Tendrils allowed to feel on their own grew stronger and found support

I can’t suggest, I cant’ teach, or cajole someone HOW TO BE, HOW TO GROW, HOW TO CHANGE.    PERIOD.    What I CAN do, is walk along and just BE THERE.  This little vine discovered what it needed,  when it needed it, and grabbed it and then grew.    It did it when IT needed to, not when I thought it needed it.

I love that plant and tried to show it how to wrap around and use what I could see. After all,  I could see better than it!  (right???)    Well,  I believe I stunted its own natural energy and growth by “showing it the way”!    The tendrils left to their own wisdom, and “feelings,”  found the stick and grew much stronger in that experience.

One of my hardest lessons in my life to  continue learning –  Words never teach, only a personal Experience will. 

So why the blog?  After all, words don’t teach.  I think I’ve written this one for me, to affirm my experience, to chew on it and remind myself of what I’ve had to face and learn this summer.

Hope  you’re having a great summer and LOVING LIFE!!!

Be happy my friends,  MomentumMikey




2 thoughts on “Cucumber Tao

  1. Thank you for this post. I am currently trying to help a young man who has had a hard childhood get his life together and get a good job. It is a hard road and hard for me to NOT try to force him to do things on the timeline I think he should. Perhaps I just need to walk beside him (which I think I am doing) until such time that he is ready to grab onto the help and flourish. I will try to be the stick, patiently waiting for him to use the support when he’s ready.


    • thanks for stopping by and reading, I agree, it’s soooooo tempting and difficult isn’t it, when I feel love I want to guide to where I feel happiness. good luck and know the kindness is felt and WILL make a HUGE difference, whether you see him “grab the stick”, or not! thanks for stopping by, good luck my friend.

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